Increasingly, I am being asked by my clients “How did you create your successful life?”
It’s an interesting concept…success…it comes with many many variations and differing opinions as to what actually is success.
What Does Success Look Like?
People looking in on others’ lives have different measures as to what success means. For some, it is absolutely material wealth and the concrete trappings that accompany that wealth. And, of course the freedom, or perceived freedom that also accompanies that wealth. For others it is success with building a lifestyle that brings true happiness, contentment and peace of mind….that in itself is freedom. The reality is that each and every one of us has a different concept of what freedom and success can offer.
What’s the Next Step?
So, given that we all have different ideas and concepts of success, how do you commence the journey towards building that personal, craved successful life?
Firstly, you have to be realistic and honest with yourself. It is not enough to simply say “I want to be rich” or “I want enough money to have freedom of choice”. You have to know exactly how much money you want to make. You have to have a firm visualisation of the concepts, the lifestyle and the things that you desire. You have to feel them and know them…because if you don't have a firm vision, how will you know what your path is? How will you know what it is that you exactly want?
Okay….So Then What Happens?
I firmly believe that the next step on the path to your desired life is…..to say “YES!”
Saying “Yes!” Is the key to success.“Yes” when others are unwilling to say “Yes” to opportunities that present. The most common reason for letting opportunities pass one by is fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of looking foolish, fear of the timing not being ‘right’, fear of what others will think or say. Also the very real fear of failure. All of these fears have to be dealt with…and there is only one way to deal with them….
Yes, you have to surrender to doing the deep, internal work around looking humbly at all of your fears, doubts, blockages and limitations. So many of the clients that I have worked with get in their own way. It does take work and focus to engineer yourself to get out of your own way, however, I believe that we are all capable of it. One of the ways I work around this myself is to play ‘Sitting in the observer seat’. When you are lost in the emotional body, with fears and doubts cascading around you, practice observing the emotion from afar and that’s when you can shift it. You can actively say “That is not mine”. “That doesn't work for me”…. and dispel the emotive response.
You Will Look Different….
Creating your desired successful life is about understanding and doing the inner work and being okay about walking in the other, or a different direction from most other people. It’s about being fully comfortable in that skin. It’s the concept of wearing that shiny suit that stands out from the crowd, when no one else is prepared to wear it…because of the attention it brings.
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You Absolutely Can Have it all
…and you can give back as well.